June 30, 2012

A lot of my close friends are people I’ve known for a long time, mostly from early high school days, Of course I’ve made friends along the way but some of my closest are also the oldest. But let me tell you about this girl. I guess I should start from the beginning, we kinda have a cute love story.

It was cold dreary winter day, 12/12/09 to be precise. I only know the exact date because I took the picture below.  It was my first quarter at Davis and I had finished finals that day, most of my new friends had gone home for winter break, I don’t know where I got the bright Idea that staying in Davis would be a wise decision.
I was on skype with my friend Ebuka and I think we were playing some game (chinese checkers or hangman). We thought it would be fun to add another person to our game, but none of our mutual friends were online so he asked me if I minded if he called Seyi (this is how I remember the story oh :s if I’m wrong please don’t correct me, I like my story).

…I was cool with it, the more the merrier yes? So he added her to the call, we never ended up playing the game. When she answered the phone she was speaking yoruba to someone and I remember thinking, how cool! I never hear young people speaking yoruba to one another. So yeah we just ended up just gisting about various topics. Then Ebuka said “You california people” and I was like what? You’re in California? and she was like yeah, San Francisco. I got so excited! That’s like 2 and a half hours from Davis! I love SF and I hang out in the city a lot. We discussed our favorite SF spots till Ebuka started feeling left out. lol

After a while I complained about being hungry and how I was out of milk, then she said “I’m not doing anything I’ll bring you some”
I was like “what? it’s past midnight and it’s an almost 3hour drive!”
 And she was like “But you’re hungry, what’s your address I’m getting in my car”
So just like that I gave this girl I had just met my address to come to my house in the middle of the night. Long story short she came, She forgot the milk and brought an uninvited guest – her poodle who peed on my carpet and chased me around my apartment. (the picture above with the poodle was taken that night we met).
So she stayed over that night with her hyperactive dog and the next day instead of going to buy milk, I packed an overnight bag and followed her back to hers, I ended up staying 5days. lol
And that was the beginning of a long friendship, I can’t imagine how many miles I put on her car with all the back and forths. I remember telling my mom about her and how we met and then my mom spoke to her and fell in love.
Overtime I came to love not only her but this wahala dog “Buddy” we have a complicated relationship but I do love her.
Seyi was with me during some of my most difficult times read breakup  ever, ready with a box of tissues and several bottles of wine. We had great times in my apartment. She never missed my birthday and we always spent them either on my couch or bed singing off key and drinking wine and then stuffing our faces at sushi buffet later.
One of my favorite memories with her was new year’s eve 2009, we had been at a party banquet thing(such a fun fancy party) then at a quarter to 12 we decided we didn’t want to party into the new year so we started rushing home, needless to say we didnt make it and ended up parking in front of a 7-eleven and praying into the new-year.
Our many beach escapades (see Living on the edge) were always so much fun! it pays to live on the coast.

If I were to describe Seyi in one word it would be “Selfless” when she cares about you she will always make your needs a priority. She also is the definition of “I don’t send” I love her spirit. I remember anytime we went into a store she would dance sing and just generally embarrass me just for the heck of it. (ugh why is this starting to sound like an eulogy? God Forbid). A lot has changed since I first met her, for one she no longer wears only distressed boyfriend jeans I mean she must have had like 10 pairs(pictured below)! And she is no longer a cynic. In fact she makes even me do the puke face sometimes, yeah that cheesy in love). But she still collects perfume and she still has one of the strongest spirits I’ve ever met.

I’m definitely blessed to have met her just by chance. I only hope I”ve brought as much joy into her life as she has to mine.

So what’s the point of this long story? We’ll She’s moving to a different state, and yeah it’s not that big of a deal but then it is. It hit me hard on Tuesday. See no matter where I went, I would always know that when i came back to California Seyi would be there. When I went to Italy and came back, she was there, when I moved to Nigeria and then 6months later found myself back in America guess whose house I went straight to from the airport? Yeah. She has been a constant. I was a Big girl as I hugged her goodbye yesterday, I didn’t even cry but mahhn… sigh

So Seyi, When you read this (and forgive me for reducing your street cred) I just want you to know I love and care for you deeply. As you start this next chapter of your life I wish you utmost happiness and God’s guidance and protection. Take time out for yourself so you can continue to be as amazing as you are. You are a special person, beautiful inside and out and I am privileged to call you my friend!

If you (La Bella imperfezione readers) are reading this, please send her some positive energy and also take time out to appreciate the good friends you have (the reason this was sounding like an eulogy was ‘cos people only ever stay these things when it’s too late) If you appreciate someone let them know today!

Have a great weekend everyone!

Love always,

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  • Reply kovieparker June 30, 2012 at 9:35 am

    This is beautiful on so many levels. True friendship is one of greatest gifts anyone could ever have. The good thing is time and distance doesn’t change that which in itself is so real. God bless you both and God’s grace to Seyi as she moves into this new chapter.

    • Reply Sabirah June 30, 2012 at 4:01 pm

      Thank you, thank you. Amen

  • Reply Bimbo F June 30, 2012 at 12:54 pm

    There’s nothing like reading your blog Sab. Sometimes i smile, laugh or want to cry. You are also wonderful person because the memories i have of you are nice ones back in high school. May God continue to direct and bless you. Looking forward to your next blog. Such an inspiration. Voila! 😀

    • Reply Sabirah June 30, 2012 at 4:01 pm

      Thanks so much Bimbo! your comments always make me smile 🙂

  • Reply BBB June 30, 2012 at 4:09 pm

    i actually got teary eyes, damn it im too sappy, this made me miss my friends so much, i also have amazing ones
    this was beautiful Sabs

    i wish Seyi the very best as she goes into the next stage of her life, moving can be fun and exciting and she will only experience the positives from this change in Jesus name

    • Reply Sabirah June 30, 2012 at 4:12 pm

      Thanks soo much!
      Amen Amen Amen

  • Reply seyifunmi June 30, 2012 at 4:21 pm

    This is such a beautiful post, brought me to tears. I have never been able to capture myself with such words. Thank you!!! Sabirah, I am very grateful I got to spend the last couple of years with you. We had such great memories together, it is almost unbelievable. It is really amazing what a tool you have been for me too, it was so nice having someone with such a kindred spirit even though you were 2hours away. We have definitely grown as friends and you have seen me in my many phases of life, we were together through it all. I am leaving california but you know you are always welcomed wherever I am, and we can make more memories there. Thank you for being a great friend this past month; all I had to do was express a bit of worry and you were there with your comforting words(i will always remember to eat my vegetables, lol). I love and appreciate you deeply and thanks for your friendship.

    • Reply Sabirah June 30, 2012 at 8:38 pm

      Waaaaaaahhh no more big girl, the tears have come. Sigh.

    • Reply Oladipupo June 30, 2012 at 8:45 pm


      My namesake!!

      This story makes my heart flip in gladness. Now I love Seyi even more :’)

      Thank you! And thanks for sharing this, Sabirah. You’re also an awesome, dependable friend!! I look forward to years and yeaaaaars ahead! 😀

  • Reply Anonymous June 30, 2012 at 7:20 pm

    oluwaseyifunmi! I love youuuuu! and I love this! I have experienced the way seyi cares and is selfless. She always makes me smile when we talk. She, and you too Sabi :P, are AH-mazing people, and I’m really glad to have met you both! I prayyyy for you both in whatever it is that comes your way. Success will always greet you at the end of the road. Seyi your move will bring only happiness, and Sab you’ll be alright 🙂
    Did I mention already how much I love this post, and the pictures?

    Your friendship truly is an inspiration, and I pray it continues to ‘flourish and abound’

    I love you both!
    mueh mueh!

    • Reply Sabirah June 30, 2012 at 8:39 pm

      Lol you mueh mueh gave you away!

      I love you too :* :*

  • Reply Bella Joya July 2, 2012 at 5:39 pm

    *bursting into tears half way through the post* Sabirah and SEyi…… yall make me cry. but good tears.

  • Reply tinuo July 3, 2012 at 6:46 pm

    the joy of having good friends
    awesome post Sabirah (youre even an awesomer person)
    and Seyi God’s guidance wherever you are

  • Reply Mz.T July 5, 2012 at 6:37 pm

    Awww Sab. This was so beautiful it made me teary eyed. You have and are such an amazing friend. I hope God is with Seyi through the next phase of her life.

  • Reply Anonymous August 4, 2012 at 11:31 am

    I actually cried reading this. You r a great friend to have written this. Friendship is a blessing I can’t thank God enough for. Happy belated birthday too, God bless u.

  • Reply Anonymous August 29, 2012 at 1:05 pm

    I’ve read this over and over,its just too beautiful!

  • Reply Sabirah August 30, 2012 at 2:54 am

    Thank you all for your gracious comments 🙂

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