So you can blame this post on Bellanaija weddings, recently saw a post that was oozing love! The husband mentioned several times that he was so happy and lucky to have married his best friend and I thought huh, I want that…
Here’s the thing, when I started dating my partner, it was a very short moment of friendship, just so happened that we both wanted something more, and jumped right into it. We started off really as partners, in fact we ran into some problems later when we discovered that we really had to build a solid friendship in addition to our romantic relationship. And while I can confidently say we are good friends now, I can’t say he is my best friend.
Looking at the relationships I have with those I call my best friends, I can say they are made up of a mix of many different things; A shared history, mutual trust, love, similar interests, memories and a looooot of time. Of course some of these factors are dependent on one another, I mean you can’t really create a shared history if you haven’t had a lot of time to do it…
So I’m asking, how important is it for your partner to be your “Best friend”? What does that even mean? Is it just another label? Can it be cultivated? If yes, what are the secret ingredients?- I’m thinking time and patience, at least that’s what we are working with 😉
Share your thoughts!