Right after I came back from Hong Kong, I emptied out my closet. Beginning of the year, why not do a purge? So I began, and the conversation with myself sort of went like this:
“Oh I haven’t worn this in a year”
“- but but, I loved it so much.. sigh”
“Maybe I should keep it.”
“It’s so pretty”
“It’s just a little snug”
“I’ll still fit into it…
And the internal battle went on… but eventually I sucked it up (so to speak. heh)
Some things were easier to let go of than others, but once I got into the rhythm of it, it became easier and easier. I had a simple checklist.
- No longer fits.
- Hasn’t been worn in a year (and is not a very special occasion outfit)
- Makes me feel fat/awkward/’unpretty’.
- Isn’t my style any more
- Could be of better use to someone else.
It went fast, very soon I realised I had a closet full of clothes that no longer fit, made me feel terrible or were just plain ugly-to me. It was a relief to see all the bags packed up and ready to be donated. Someone was going to be happy with all those clothes (note- try to only give out clothes that are good enough to wear, not super worn out, torn or stained).
I also thought of it as some sort of radical self love, here I am committing to letting my clothes become more of an ally and not the enemy. I think if you’ve ever struggled with weight, getting dressed can be a battle ground, you love some clothes and they just don’t love you back. You keep some clothes in the hope that one day, they’ll be your size again. You might even buy some clothes as a form of motivation. Whatever floats your boat… but I choose now. So to all that say, let it go.
Felt like a really good way to start the year and at the same time honour my body. This present body, the body I have now, not the one I had yesterday nor the one I want to have next month. Now. Getting dressed would become easier and I would be rid of all this stuff cluttering my space and by extension my life.
Also felt good to be able to do more with less, a sort of minimalism. I really didn’t shop last year, I bought 2 pairs of shoes and a handful of clothes, so I’m going to extend some of my rules to shopping, only if it ‘sparks joy’, makes you feel good, is your size and style.
p.s. On January 1st I bought a pair of jeans that fit like a dream, from the most unexpected store- M&S!
So here is to less “stuff”, feeling good from the inside out, and showing ourselves some radical self love!
p.s do you have any body goals (that do not involve beating yourself up about numbers on a scale) I’d love to hear them.